I am back in Belgium after an almost 2 week adventure to California. One of my best friends-Sarah was going from being a Holt to a Kappen and I was not going to miss it. Since it was such a long trip and I have begun to hate plane rides- I get VERY antsy after the first 2 hours- I decided to make a vacation of it and get to spend some sweet moments with Sarah before she went from single to married.
I am SO glad I made the trip and that I went out early. I can say it was SOO good for my soul.
Another friend of mine from Belgium-Christie- also came out early and we rented a beach house together. So for a few days it was just Sarah, Christie and I at the house. It was beyond lovely to wake up leisurely in the mornings, eat breakfast together, work out together(yes-we did Insanity) and then go to the beach or run errands or whatever the day called for. All the while having amazing conversations about life-it's challenges and it's joys. I laughed so much my abs were hurting by the second day. These ladies are AMAZING women of God who know how to listen well and not always feel like they have to solve problems. They are women of prayer. Women who love well. Women who care deeply. True Community is something I tend to lack in Belgium and I got to experience amazing community last week. As I said-it was good for my SOUL.
Weddings are beautiful and intimate and powerful. As a single woman I love the promise of a wedding. The beauty of the day. The beginning of a new adventure. But the thing I love most about a wedding is the idea that for probably the only time in your life(except perhaps your funeral) it is the one time when people from all the different parts of your life come together to celebrate. Maybe it's because my life is so compartmentalized. Many of my friends have never met each other because they live across the country or even the world. I love the idea that all of my friends and family will get to meet and have a party together! That I will get to stand before them and God and make a lifelong commitment. That everyone gets to be a part of the beginning of something so deep, so intimate.
As I traveled home I was able to process through some of my thoughts and feelings from the week. I tend to be a slow processor so it was nice to have a plane ride to work through some thoughts. There may have been a moment on the plane where tears were literally streaming down my face but I think I did a pretty good job of paying it off as something in my eye:) I am BEYOND excited for my sweet friend as she beings this whole new adventure of being married. I was thrilled to stand beside her on Saturday and cry and smile and laugh as she joined her life with Billy's. They are amazing people individually and I can already see God beginning to grow them and use them together as a couple. I love that God orchestrated their lives is such a unique way and that there are no other Billy's or Sarah's in the world. They are unique as individuals and they will be unique as a married couple. I pray and have faith that their marriage is going to be powerful in many lives.
Maybe that's why these feeling and thoughts have come up- Because I could see what God is doing in them and through them and their coming together. Maybe it makes me want that sense of community even more. It is also a reminder to me that others want to be a part of community. That even in my daily life I want to be inviting other people into my life- regardless of their marital status.